How to Help a Loved One Experiencing Family Violence
Supporting a loved one who is experiencing family violence can be challenging, but your compassion and assistance can make a significant difference.
Here are some steps you can take to offer meaningful support:
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1. Listen and Believe
Be There: Offer a listening ear without judgment. Let your loved one share their feelings and experiences at their own pace.
Believe Them: Validate their experiences and emotions. Trusting and believing their account is crucial for their sense of safety and support.
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2. Offer Emotional Support
Reassure Them: Let your loved one know that they are not alone and that you care about their well-being.
Encourage Self-Care: Support them in taking care of themselves, both emotionally and physically. Encourage activities that promote well-being and relaxation.
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3. Provide Practical Help
Assist with Safety Planning: Help them develop a safety plan, including identifying safe places, emergency contacts, and essential items they might need.
Support Their Decisions: Respect their choices, even if you think there might be a better option. Empowering them to make their own decisions is crucial.
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4. Help with Resources
Offer Information: Provide them with information about local resources such their local Women’s Refuge, CAB, police, or other relevant social services.
Assist with Access: Help them contact support services or accompany them to appointments if they feel comfortable with that.
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5. Encourage Professional Help
Suggest Specialist Services: Encourage them to seek professional help from those who specialise in trauma and family violence. Our Family Violence Specialists will support in navigating the next steps.
6. Ensure Their Privacy
Respect Confidentiality: Keep their situation private and avoid discussing it with others without their permission.
Secure Communication: Be mindful of how you communicate and share information, particularly through digital channels.
7. Take Care of Yourself
Self-Care: Supporting someone in crisis can be emotionally taxing. Make sure to take care of your own mental and emotional health.
Seek Support: Consider reaching out to support groups or counsellors to help you navigate your own feelings and responsibilities.
8. Be Patient and Understanding
Respect Their Pace: Understand that leaving an abusive situation can be a complex and gradual process. Be patient and supportive throughout their journey.
Avoid Pressure: Do not pressure them to take immediate action or make decisions. Let them move at their own pace and provide support as needed.
9. Know the Signs of Danger
Recognise Red Flags: Be aware of signs that their situation may be escalating and be prepared to take immediate action if their safety is at risk.
Emergency Response: If you believe they are in imminent danger, contact emergency services or encourage them to do so.
10. Continue Support
Stay Connected: Maintain regular contact to show that you are there for them. Continue offering support even if they decide to stay in the relationship.
Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge and celebrate their achievements and steps towards safety, no matter how small.
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Supporting a loved one through family violence requires patience, empathy, and understanding. By offering your support, you help them find the strength to seek safety and start the journey towards healing.
If you have any questions or need further assistance, please contact us. We are here to provide guidance and support for you and your loved one.
Together, we can make a difference in the lives of those affected by family violence.